Valentine’s Day often highlights romance and relationships, but as a single mother, this day can feel like an emotional challenge. It might bring reminders of past relationships, loneliness, or the idea that Valentine’s Day is meant for couples. But here’s the truth: love is not limited to romantic partners. Love is about appreciation, care, and recognizing your own worth.

So, to my fellow single moms: This Valentine’s Day, I want you to celebrate the love you have for yourself. You are the backbone of your family, the heart that beats tirelessly for your child, and the soul that carries on even through the toughest days. Your child will always be your greatest love, but you also deserve to be cherished, nurtured, and cared for—not just by others, but by yourself.

Let Go of Guilt

If you’ve ever felt guilty for wanting love, for hoping to find someone who will appreciate you, let go of that burden. A happy, healthy mother raises happy, healthy children. Prioritizing your own happiness does not mean loving your child any less. In fact, when you care for yourself, you show them what self-worth and self-respect look like.

Ways to Celebrate Yourself This Valentine’s Day

If no one is taking you out or surprising you with gifts this year, then do it for yourself! You are deserving of joy, relaxation, and love. Here are a few ideas to make this day special:

• Treat Yourself – Order your favorite meal, buy yourself flowers, or indulge in something that makes you feel special.
• Write a Love Letter to Yourself – Remind yourself of your strengths, your victories, and how far you’ve come.
• Have a Self-Care Night – Take a bubble bath, watch a movie you love, read a book that inspires you.
• Go Out With Friends – Plan a fun night with fellow single moms or close friends who uplift you.
• Do Something New – Try a new hobby, visit a place you’ve never been, or take yourself on a solo date.

You Are Worthy

You don’t need a partner to validate your worth. You are strong, beautiful, and capable. You have endured and conquered challenges that many could never imagine. This Valentine’s Day, remind yourself that you are enough just as you are.

Love yourself the way you love your child—unconditionally, fiercely, and without hesitation. Because you deserve that kind of love too.

Happy Valentine’s Day, from one resilient mom to another.